Being strong doesn’t mean hiding your pain. It doesn’t mean forgoing help when you’re struggling. It doesn’t mean denying yourself things that feel good for the sake of practicing self-control. It doesn’t mean refusing to show sadness and vulnerability. And it doesn’t mean carrying the burdens of life all by yourself. Anything that prevents your healing and stifles your growth does not correspond with strength. Being strong means refusing to tolerate people and things that wound your soul. It means practicing self-care when you’re hurting. It means honoring your feelings by actually allowing yourself to feel and express them. It means treating yourself with compassion and kindness, even when you feel like you don’t deserve any. It means doing what makes you happy and being with people who make you feel good, regardless of outside judgements. It means asking for help when the weight of the world has become too much. It means giving yourself permission to get your needs met by setting boundaries and using your voice. It means forgiving yourself on the days that you’re struggling and can’t be brave. It means challenging the voice telling you that you’re inadequate and worthless and reminding yourself, repeatedly, that you are enough.

Daniell Koepke (via internal-acceptance-movement)

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projectunbreakable:

The poster reads:
“Tes parents son parties dînner, ne tinquiète pas je m’occuperai de toi”
“Your parents went to dinner, but don’t worry I’ll take care of you”

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Photographed in Paris, France on November 25th.
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projectunbreakable:

The poster reads:

“Tes parents son parties dînner, ne tinquiète pas je m’occuperai de toi”
“Your parents went to dinner, but don’t worry I’ll take care of you”

Photographed in Paris, France on November 25th.

Click here to learn more about Project Unbreakable. (trigger warning)

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What kind of world do we live in when young men are so proud of violating unconscious girls that they pass proof around to their friends? It’s the same kind of world in which being labeled a slut comes with such torturous social repercussions that suicide is preferable to enduring them. As a woman named Sara Erdmann so aptly tweeted to me, “I will never understand why it is more shameful to be raped than to be a rapist.”

And yet it is: so much so that young men seem to think there’s nothing wrong with—and maybe something hilarious about—sharing pictures of themselves raping young women. And why not? Their friends will defend them, as they did in Steubenville, tweeting that the young woman was “asking for it” and that the boys were being unfairly targeted.

Women and girls are the ones expected to carry the shame of the sexual crimes perpetrated against them. And that shame is a tremendous load to bear, because once you’re labeled a slut, empathy and compassion go out the window. The word is more than a slur—it’s a designation.

queennubian:

TW:rape

theeafter-party:

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!!

Thus far, my sorors and I have been working hard to spread the word, from our “Teal Tuesdays” (teal is the official color for the commemorative month), to sharing statistics and facts with the student body, to our whiteboard campaign. It was great to see my peers willingly join in and express themselves, as we worked to raise awareness about SAAM. :)

This is just a few of the MANY photos we have taken, posted, and shared…and from what I’ve been informed, our movement has been picked up by the Deltas and our sorors at Bethune-Cookman University, as well.

Service…gotta love it!

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Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.

[TW: rape]
You need to understand what rape does to you: it destroys your protection, the line between ‘you’ and other people, the silhouette that distinguishes within from without.

the-bubblegumbitch:

Shout out to the survivors who don’t like calling themselves survivors, survivors who aren’t seen as survivors by society, and people who don’t ID as survivors for whatever reasons. Your emotions and experiences are still valid and don’t let any tell you otherwise.

(Source: theebubblegumbitch, via katelucia)

karnythia:

I remain amazed that the same dudes who turn out to shame black girls and women fro trying to own their bodies on any level are completely silent about sexual assault and harassment of black women by black men. Over 60% of black American women are sexually abused before 18, but no one’s rushing to stop that. No, the biggest issue in the lives of these fucks is whether or not little girls shake their booties to the music at a party. And they wonder why black women grow up to be so “bitter” and distrustful of black men. We learn early and often that we can’t trust anyone who doesn’t show and prove repeatedly, but hey why let facts intrude when you can abuse little black girls & absolve grown ass men?

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mylifeasafeminista:

daily reminder that there are so many good things about you

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